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Sep. 19th, 2025 08:53 am
two steps forward two steps back
If someone asks me how I am doing, I say okay. I don't know if that's true or not. Bits and pieces are okay, and I keep working on fixing another little piece one by one. I just can't look at the big picture yet, because it definitely is not okay.
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My sister's MIL had a medical crisis, ended up in the hospital because she does not take care of herself, and now she is living in my sister's house while she convalesces until... well, there isn't really a plan for what happens next. My sister already has both of her adult sons living at home still, so now it is five adults living in a very small house. And this house used to be her MILs, so she doesn't act like a guest. She has essentially taken over 2 of the 5 rooms, and it is making my sister insane.
All of this happened in less than 2 weeks, so I get why none of them were prepared for this. And I should be more charitable in my thoughts toward my sister; like me, she is shouldering a lot of grief, and having yet another relative go downhill so fast has to be triggering. (At one point, her FIL -- they are divorced -- was ALSO in the same hospital at the same time as the MIL, which made even me have a panicked reaction. Not both again!) But it's weird; my sister was very supportive and caring toward me while I was taking care of Mom, but is struggling to give her husband -- who is not working and is now his mother's caretaker -- the same level of understanding. I think a lot of this is just dredging up old problems between all of them, particularly since her MIL and husband both lived in the house first, and it took six years of marriage before she could convince her husband to buy out the house from his mother. So now she feels usurped again, like she is not able to be fully at home in her own home.
Oh. Now that I write that all out, I get why she is losing her mind. Poor Kate.
That said, in watching all of this, I can see why my parents wanted to come live near me instead of her. She loved them but did not have room in her life to take care of them, even though she insisted for years that she should be the one to do just that. There was and is no room, physically and mentally. She is the primary breadwinner for the family, and teaching is very demanding work. Sick elderly parents on top of that is too much.
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My booths are selling like crazy. Not sure what I am doing differently, but I just keep adding things in. I am also making headway on selling off the crap in the garage on FBMP, and thinning out the basement. One box at a time!
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The country is really fucked up right now. It feels like so many of the underpinnings of our society and our government are getting destroyed all at the same time. And there is no truth anywhere anymore, it's all lies and threats and meanness at every level. It's not good.
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Ok I gotta finish cleaning the kitchen and preparing the last of the insulators for sale. They were fun to learn about and get cleaned up, but now I need to work on other projects. Electrician comes today, woohoo!
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My sister's MIL had a medical crisis, ended up in the hospital because she does not take care of herself, and now she is living in my sister's house while she convalesces until... well, there isn't really a plan for what happens next. My sister already has both of her adult sons living at home still, so now it is five adults living in a very small house. And this house used to be her MILs, so she doesn't act like a guest. She has essentially taken over 2 of the 5 rooms, and it is making my sister insane.
All of this happened in less than 2 weeks, so I get why none of them were prepared for this. And I should be more charitable in my thoughts toward my sister; like me, she is shouldering a lot of grief, and having yet another relative go downhill so fast has to be triggering. (At one point, her FIL -- they are divorced -- was ALSO in the same hospital at the same time as the MIL, which made even me have a panicked reaction. Not both again!) But it's weird; my sister was very supportive and caring toward me while I was taking care of Mom, but is struggling to give her husband -- who is not working and is now his mother's caretaker -- the same level of understanding. I think a lot of this is just dredging up old problems between all of them, particularly since her MIL and husband both lived in the house first, and it took six years of marriage before she could convince her husband to buy out the house from his mother. So now she feels usurped again, like she is not able to be fully at home in her own home.
Oh. Now that I write that all out, I get why she is losing her mind. Poor Kate.
That said, in watching all of this, I can see why my parents wanted to come live near me instead of her. She loved them but did not have room in her life to take care of them, even though she insisted for years that she should be the one to do just that. There was and is no room, physically and mentally. She is the primary breadwinner for the family, and teaching is very demanding work. Sick elderly parents on top of that is too much.
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My booths are selling like crazy. Not sure what I am doing differently, but I just keep adding things in. I am also making headway on selling off the crap in the garage on FBMP, and thinning out the basement. One box at a time!
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The country is really fucked up right now. It feels like so many of the underpinnings of our society and our government are getting destroyed all at the same time. And there is no truth anywhere anymore, it's all lies and threats and meanness at every level. It's not good.
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Ok I gotta finish cleaning the kitchen and preparing the last of the insulators for sale. They were fun to learn about and get cleaned up, but now I need to work on other projects. Electrician comes today, woohoo!